The 4 Secrets of Composed, Confident, Charismatic Leaders with Carrie Beckstrom

My guest today is Carrie Be

ckstrom, the CEO of power speaking. Carrie is passionate about helping leaders and organizations develop powerful communication skills that inspire and get results. You're going to be inspired and get results. When you hear Carrie talk about how to enhance your executive presence. I'm glad you're here to listen in.

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Carrie, I know we want to talk about executive presence today. Let's start with how do you define or think about executive presence?

Sure, it can be somewhat of an elusive topic. And there's lots and lots of definitions out there. The one that resonated with me the most is one that I read in a recent Forbes article. And it's one's ability to inspire confidence. And you can think of that in a variety of ways, you know, inspire confidence in people to want to follow you. Yes, fire confidence among your peers, that you are capable and trustworthy, inspire confidence in senior leaders that you're capable of achieving great things. Nice.

Yes. ability to inspire confidence and carry you mentioned that there are four traits to executive presence. What are those?

Yeah, and one of the things I want to stress is that this is not something you're born with. This is a skill that you can absolutely cultivate. And frankly, in my opinion, it's one you should strive to cultivate and refine on an ongoing basis. It, it's narrowed down to four, four traits. And I think of them as the four C's, a one is composure, so one's ability to be level headed and rational under stress and not emotionally charged. I want to stress though it doesn't mean you have to be completely buttoned up and perfect. This is not about perfection, it's about composure, again, you're trying to inspire confidence in others. And your ability to work through pressure in a rational way, of course, is essential. The other near and dear to my heart is communication. Communication is a critical way in which you can convey your executive presence or your lack thereof. Some things that are really important in the area of communication, when we think about executive presence is your ability to communicate clearly and concisely. Naturally, the more you advance in senior leadership roles, the more compressed time is, and therefore the more essential it is that you're able to quickly influence others with your words in a concise crisp play. Nice and well. We'll elaborate more on that I'd love to a me because yeah, the other thing that is refreshing from my perspective is I think other aspects of communication that have become even more important now weren't necessarily important before, such as one's authenticity. I mean, that the quickest way to trust is to be really authentic in the way in which you communicate and transparent.

Yeah, yes, we will talk more.

And then the third C is confidence and capability. Naturally, in my view, your competence are kind of table stakes. You also have to be able to convey that capability in a confident way. And here I think it's really important to distinguish between confidence which I consider you know, self assurance and your self worth versus arrogance, which a real turn off and off putting and erode your executive presence. And then the fourth again, in my view and experience is Chris You have to be Christmas Eric, in order for you to inspire confidence, you have to be magnetic and in your own unique way. Be engaging, be dynamic. be inspiring, be passionate.

Yes. I love how you're saying that in your own unique way. Oh, Carrie, this is great. I love this definition, this way of thinking about executive presence. Because I think first of all, many don't know how to think about this nebulous term, and probably have a more narrow view of it, then you just described, I think many think about executive presence. Well, first is something that you either have or you don't have love when you build it out to the four C's, that that that shows us that there are skills we can develop here, we all know we can develop communication skills. For example, if we think about the different aspects, where are we already strong and can lean in? And where do we need to develop and fine tune our skills?

Absolutely.

Let me tell the listeners more about you, Carrie, we are talking today to Carrie Backstrom, She is the CEO of power speaking. Carrie is passionate about leading the talented power speaking team and helping organizations such as genatech, eBay, Autodesk Gilead Sciences, develop powerful communication skills that inspire people and get results. Here's a quote our purpose is to make great people even greater at what they do every day. That includes becoming effective global communicators, who build positive relationships and drive business forward. Prior to joining power speaking, Carrie enjoyed more than 30 years experience in the learning and development industry, where she led award winning teams. I am proud to be a facilitator and a coach with power speaking and delighted to have Carrie on the podcast today. Thanks, Carrie.

Oh, you bet. And we're delighted to have you very.

Let's keep this conversation going. You intrigued me You said you wanted to talk more about communication? Because there are communication aspects or skills that are becoming more important. More recently. Can you say more?

Yes, yes. I was thinking more human. And then you you said that phrase, let the human side come out. Right. And I was also thinking pushing through as you have that tooth ache, like is that showing up on my face, in my mannerisms, in my tone, like, as I'm physically dealing with a discomfort?

Yes, exactly. I mean, think about how incredibly difficult that had to be am and in my opinion, so unnecessary. Right? So and that gets to the question, you were asking me about how has the expectations of leaders and their communication evolved, the importance of being clear and concise holds true today, just as it did, you know, years and years and years ago, what has changed, and this relates to what you and I were just discussing, is, the heightened importance of being really authentic. And authenticity means I am so sorry, but I can barely concentrate because I have an excruciating toothache, and I'm gonna go take care of it. And I would expect you to be able to do the same if you were in my position. So So authenticity is, is again, so important to making those really genuine, meaningful connections, and frankly, to succeed and wanting people to follow you, and, you know, reach great heights with you. The other piece and these all relate is the willingness to be transparent, something that just drives me crazy, is when the corporate spin is put on things to try to sugarcoat an action that's been taken, that's probably essential for the business, but it's going to adversely affect others. example I can think of, again, a company I used to work with, when the decision was made to offshore a lot of jobs and in lower labor markets, which meant laying off a number of people in the States, rather than calling it like it was. It was called right sizing. We're right sizing. Okay. And what does that do that that people are smart? They see through things. Yeah. So that causes people, you lose credibility. And, and again, it can be off putting. So I would say the transparency, the authenticity, and the vulnerability executive presence doesn't mean that you have to be perfect. No, at all. Quite the contrary.

Yeah, it's how can you demonstrate vulnerability in a way that works for you? Yeah, those around you. These are some really great points, Carrie, and with your point around, being authentic, and as we've talked about the courage of a leader, first pillar is the courage to be authentically you. And you're talking about authenticity, not only, I don't know, universally, like or holistically like I like I show up as a leader, knowing my strengths and knowing my style and leaning into my strengths and being who I am. I'm also hearing you say it's authenticity day to day. I'm dealing with a tooth ache today. Here's how I am, here's how I'm showing up. Here's what you need to know about what's going on with me today. Not that we share, of course, all of our childhood traumas and everything that's gone on, and you know exactly what we think about all of our interactions with our you know, whomever over the weekend. Yeah, but here's what what you need to know about how I'm showing up today and having that awareness and thinking intentionally about how do you share that with others.

One thing you said I really like and want to underscore authenticity to me, also relates to really, really having clarity around your on personal brand, nice, you know, taking the time to really be clear on what is your unique value, we all have unique value and I 100% Subscribe to play into your strengths rather than having this inordinate focus on your weaknesses are your shortcomings. What are your values that plays right in with authenticity? And what are your contributions? Yeah, so to be truly authentic, it does require, in my view, some self reflection, and really bringing into focus. Who are you? And how do you want to show up?

Yeah, yeah. Love that. Look, we'd love for all leaders, and we're all leaders, right? And allies to be really clear about what's our personal brand. And that is not 27 different things. No, right? That that is a unique value proposition that you uniquely bring to our world. And I love that, oh, go ahead.

I was just gonna say the one other thing I wanted to mention in terms of what it takes to be a strong communicator that builds your executive presence that wasn't necessarily as much emphasized in the past, because the the leadership approach and corporate culture tended to be more one of control and command. Whereas today, I think the number one goal of communication is to connect, to connect, that also means being a really empathetic active listener, because part of what makes you successful as a leader is your ability to make the right decisions on behalf of the company to make the right decisions, you have to be getting insight from all different channels, which takes deep active listening. Yes,

there's so much gold in what you're saying, Carrie, and it kind of pulls together everything that you were saying if if our goal is to connect, we need to show up authentically, we need to be transparent. We need to be vulnerable. Right? And that that helps that connection. And yeah, and it also takes listening, truly listening actively. And with empathy. Yeah. So if I am a leader, and I'm listening, and I think oh, yes, right, love these four traits, that carries outlining for us about executive presence. And I think I want to build my executive presence. Where do I start? How do I do that?

Well, first of all, is understanding what it is which we just talked about. So whether whether your formula or Ave or the four seasons I described, or whatever it is, really define it into skills that one can develop, practice work on refining. The other thing I think is really important is self awareness. Yeah, you have to start with where you're at. And, you know, there's so many things we can do as leaders to increase the self awareness of those working for us. Obviously, one is providing very thoughtful, meaningful, helpful feedback, encouraging whomever it is, you're coaching, to do the same seek because how we think about ourselves isn't necessarily how we're perceived by others. So that's, that's the insight that you're trying to get at. So really striving to get feedback from many different people that see you in a variety of settings because it is important that that executive presence shows up through many, many, many different scenarios and not just when you're sitting at the executive table. So that self awareness and then us being practitioners, of course, love assessments. So there's a zillion assessments out there that can help in this regard that can also help to really bring focus to your personal brand. One I really like is gallop strengths finders another one is the Marcus Buckingham standout assessment. And then the the other is encouraged the individual to invest in his or her development. I am biased, I feel very, very strongly that investing in enhancing one's communication skills is extraordinarily important because it it regardless of your role, regardless of your aspirations, improving your ability to confidently and effectively communicate, whatever it is you're trying to achieve will yield dividends. And then the other thing I would say and I think this ties to one of your pillars, is really encouraging the person to take risks because frankly, frankly, it There's no way around it. executive presence is honed through a lot of practice and a lot of failures. I mean, some of my most painful but most important lessons in terms of how I slowly improved my executive presence was through missteps.

Thank you. Thank you, Carrie. So you said, if I can recap that, define it. Right, be sure you're clear on how you're thinking about executive presence, and then raising your awareness. Right, which can be reflecting on that day to day, dude, I do. I think I had the impact that I wanted to have in that meeting. And that's in that setting. If I look back, did it seem like my message was landing, and then check in with some of those folks, and I love that you said a variety of people in a variety of situations, because executive presence is something we want to continually be demonstrating. And we can if we're authentically showing up and intentionally working to have clear, crisp, concise, compelling, all the C's messages. Yeah, that's right. That's right. All from all the scenes from Carrie. And yeah, getting that feedback from people who interact with us in a variety of situations. And then practice, try things, take risks, share the bold message, see how it goes, see how it feels? Play with the messaging, right? How do you find the powerful, bold messages that feel genuine and authentic to you?

Absolutely. The one other thing I would say, and this is an example of where I personally have benefited in such a significant way, I refer to that very, very large corporation I worked for, and I'm talking 50,000 people, global, and it took years to establish my brand and executive presence. And knowing that's going to take time underscores the importance of if you're the one trying to develop it, my proactively seeking out some sponsors, or if you're the one that's trying to support and coach someone else to exactly develop their executive presence, just having that awareness that this doesn't happen overnight. So they're going to need some strong advocates, at their side to be promoting them, trust in them, have confidence in them, which gives that individual more leeway to, to stumble, and and not necessarily adversely affect their career,

because you've got an advocate or you've got a sponsor who has your back backwards. And I imagine also is doing run throughs with you that can help you prepare in situations can give you feedback afterwards. Yes. Opportunities for visibility and presenting in different situations or interacting. Yeah, in different in different meetings. I love that the Think about who are who can be your advocates, your sponsors, and invite people to do so. To play that role.

Amy, I just thought of one more thing that it's it seems so basic, but I don't think nearly enough people take advantage of it. And it's at our disposal even more now, because we're doing so much virtually, is because executive presence is what what's on the exterior. It's not what's going on in your head. Right. It's like I said, it's how you show up to others. An excellent way to try to get some objective insight into that is playback a meeting?

Recorded, right?

I mean, we know the power of recording when it comes to enhancing your more formal presentation skills is just as powerful when you want to just try to kind of objectively observe yourself in action.

Yes, yes. I've been part of many meetings that are recorded for someone who couldn't make it that day. I was there that day. That that recording is shared with the full team. Take a look at that. Exactly.

Yeah. And it's permanent. Well, at least however long you keep it in the cloud.

Oh, I know watching ourselves on video makes so many of us cringe but it's so so valuable. I'm glad you brought that up. You've shared so much great stuff Carrie. I want The loop back to something that you said when you were introducing the four traits of executive presence. You talked about with number three, that it's, it's confidence, showing that capability, yet it's not stepping into the arrogance. How do we meet that balance?

Well, I'll go back to kind of how I distinguish the two confidence is, is really having belief in your self worth, it goes back to that personal brand, you know, a real belief and confidence in your unique value. Yeah, it doesn't mean that you constant. I mean, it's tough because especially as women, we're constantly advise on the importance of self promotion. But that's not about bragging. And it's not constantly because confidence to be confident means you're self assured, and you're secure. Now, typically, if you're arrogant, typically you're masking some insecurity. So I can provide advice, like a psychologist would be able to move traffic, but underneath that, and why that is, confidence is being really mindful of pointing out others successes and recognizing others that conveys confidence because you're not feeling like the spotlight always has to be on yourself. Confidence is about taking the time to actively listen and be interested in again, and making that kind of goes back me to what is what are you trying to achieve? You're trying to connect with others. So if you're trying to connect with others, you can do it in a way that's very confident, but also very relatable and inclusive, versus alienating, and feeling like it always needs to be about yourself, and you need to go to great lengths to always be right. Yes,

yes, these are some important very critical aspects of confidence. If we've done that reflection, work about our personal brand, right, if we've done an assessment, a galloper standout roles that you recommended, then then we're grounded in who we are, and what we're strong at and what value we provide, right, then we could talk about the value we provide the value they provide the value they provide. And this idea that we can show confidence while listening. I think there's a narrow view there, right? Confidence, you have to be speaking to demonstrate evidence,

not at all and the other thing and I it's it's an individual thing, so it doesn't work for everyone, but I had another great way, especially as a leader, where sometimes, you know, you might not feel accessible to everybody, or I'm sorry, if maybe, you know, just because you retitle maybe it can be someone and intimidating to others, is self deprecation. Again, this is not about perfection.

Hmm. All self deprecating humor. It endears us to people, engages us we're like this, this this person is how know cool and open and willing to laugh at themselves. Right? How

to seriously

how attractive is that energetically? Exactly. Carrie, you have said so many good things today, starting with the definition of executive presence, one's ability to inspire confidence, the four C's, four traits of executive presence, composure, communication, confidence and capability, and charisma. And then how do we develop our executive presence? Be clear on how you define it. Raise your self awareness intentionally get feedback from others continue to get feedback from others. Take risks, try things Be bold. Record yourself. I love that

we had a sponsor

and get a sponsor. I knew I was missing something key about the process

estimation was amazing.

Any anything else you want to share about executive presence before we wrap this episode, Carrie.

Make it your own. Again. It's not it's not trying to fit a certain mold be uniquely you and work on developing those traits in a way that fits your personal style.

Yeah, we've talked quite a bit about authenticity. This is about your authentic voice. Yeah. Carrie, thank you so much for being on the courage of a leader podcast today. really valuable information. Oh,

delightful. I'll come back anytime. Thank you, Amy.

Thanks, Carrie.